Mature lives..Immature living!

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It’s a new morning. This picture of absolutely mesmerizing  beauty of nature is from my backyard. 

How life-affirming are the vibes! The rays of sunshine sneaking through the tall trees, as though making way to sparkle the solitude of the confined space. Every time I look at these sneaking sun rays, I’m mellowed by its warmth & kindness. I often feel what it would be like, if, humans showed similar affection for each other..and be more human than just human beings…

We are always spell-bound by natural beauty. WE ONLY FORGET OUR PART IN IT!! No! I’m not asking you to start planting trees now. Actually you can do that later! 

Just wondering, if, like sun rays we could sparkle some lives around us. We are all part of the same nature!

Wondering if the lost sparkle in many eyes, could be made to glisten when someone holds them and tells them, how grateful they are for having them in their lives. Don’t know why it’s so difficult for people to express that!

Or is it lost somewhere in the conundrums of life? Or is it outdated, to show love and gratitude for people in our lives? Spouses feel kids are grown up and kids feel they are grown up and independent!

After all, we do have that great love locked up in our bosom for our loved ones- what’s the need for that explicit expression & “reassurance” of those feelings?  

But at work? Oh! there this rule does not apply! There we must keep reassuring our worth month on month and year on year. Family & friends? Oh that’s OK! They can be taken for granted! They will always be there!

Oh yes! At office also- it only works with the performance bit! Actually for some of us that’s only a self proclaimed effort- how much we actually make a difference to the organization? Well, how does it matter? At least we rush to be there every morning right? And it’s fine- we do get salary after all! 

As for the colleagues around. We do have some best buddies. Gossiping about a colleague with a glum face-right opposite our desk is just fine! There is no need of peeping behind those expressions to discover a solitary being, or a being whose conditioning has eclipsed his/her smile. Why miss a lunch with our best buddy to make this cynic laugh? After all this very cynicism is the topic of entertainment! 

I wonder, if we can ever break free from our botched up understanding of living life, and, sparkle the spaces around us. Especially when there is nothing blocking the path, except for our own, self consumed, shallow living..




Are you finding your true calling?


Do you feel stuck in your current role? Don’t know what you’re fit for nor what you want?

In an interesting conversation with a friend of mine in a similar state, I gave that not so well accepted advise: “Concentrate on the current role to the best of your ability & you will soon know!!” 

But my curious self  got into 360 degree search. Some more phone calls and discussions pointed towards an ideal situation where one can know and choose to be in the perfect job right at the beginning of their career. This in no way conformed to the discussion I had with my friend. I was devastated!

All views converged to:  “Skill/Qualification & Profession Mismatch!!” : stated as simply as I write!

My points:
How does one know the depths of one’s skills?
How does one know whether one is suited for their current role (considering one is in that role) -unless one gives in their 100 % to what that role demands?

In today’s world of diverse skill requirements- who says an absence or presence of one particular skill- implies suitability/non-suitability of a person in a role?

On Qualification and Profession Mismatch- Washington post article dated 20th May 2013 says: “Only 27% of college grads have a job related to their major.” (See the link at the bottom of this post)

What about the balance 73 % ? Meant to remain confused, dissatisfied? Doing something they dislike? Do we mean they’ve hit the dead end- to rut at what they do? 

And this was a Federal Reserve Bank of New York Staff Report! Imagine such report results in societies where people undertake qualifications just because there parent advised them to do that or because they friends have taken that or they think it’s the cool thing to do! 

Folks, you must be kidding me to believe it! The data just states facts! This state of- dissatisfaction cries out for some-serious reasoning!

For, if it were to continue as is, which it may and probably will, unless -YOU do something about it- you end in time as a Confused Cribber!!!

But do WHAT? How does concentrating on current role help? Well- it’s like you’re stuck in the midst of a thick forest with several path outward but you’re not sure which one will lead you to the highway. Which path would you take? Why? What will form the basis of your preference?

This is just some “food for thought!”
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